Neo 2.2 problems loading ps2

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Can anyone please help me.
Having fitted a neo 2.2 mod chip I find that all my ps2 backups will only load using the ea swap method. (even though I patched all the games)
I am using an AR 2 Cart with a neo 2.2 mod my ps2 is a 30003 v4.
This is okay but I'm worried that it will take its toll on my ps2 console, as the tray slams in and out.
Also psx backups will only load by switching on and when the ps2 screen appears pressing reset.
Then they load fine.
Having checked the usual forums nobody else seems to be having the same trouble as me.
Can Anyone please help with this problem?