Cant play Footy Manager 2005 online, why?

[gunnapaul2]

Ive got an un-original disc of the game Football manager and have recently downloaded the latest patch/update for the game. Ive never attempted to play online before until recently and cant connect with my mates game no matter what we try. This is what ive done:

Ok, we've got as far as my mate has started a new network game and has ticked the box as 'run as server'. hes given me his IP address and I have entered in these details in the 'join other server' option in the bottom right option. once i have clicked on this and added his IP address it has shown his IP details in the box up the top. I then click on this and it is now just sitting there with the little football load icon. It isnt moving any further. We have tried this with all firewalls etc turned off. We have also tried it the other way round with me being the host, still no luck.

Is it not working becoz Ive downloaded a patch? Or is it becoz im not using the original disc?

Please help as soon as possible people! Thanks