More CoD2 questions...(private server)

[jenna17]

I'm sure you must be pretty tired for these private server questions but...
why can't that work goddamnit!?!

I have runned private server patch correctly by the instructions (just server host must install it?).
I start game from MP version. My friend types /connect and my correct ip to the console, but the game does not connect him to my game. We both have allowed CoD2 traffic from our firewall programs but still there reads Awaiting connection in my friends screen.
Is there some setting whitch I have to change or something? I have Zone Alarm firewall, do I have to change something from there?
Please help I'm running out of ideas.