Falcon 4 is soon to be kinda rereleased (upgraded heavily) by Lead Pursuit so it will be available in EU sometime soon, afaik its out in the US since June so keep a lookout for that.
If you want fast/cool action in IL-2 you need to get Hyperlobby (google it, i would post url if you want but that kinda thing can get me banned without permissions etc
) and register and this opens up loads of multiplayer game types for all different levels and it's kinda like instant action on demand!
BF2 with joystick hard?
I cannot fly anything properly in it with keyboard !! I guess it's what one is used to and with practice you might see many benefits. Maybe you are missing rudder control? What type of stick is it? I use Thrustmaster FLCS + pedals for F4/IL-2 but MS Sidewinder FF for BF2/OFP etc.
hope this helps.