Sorry mate i was just reading my post and i must have been having a thick day yesterday
You need to HOLD your reset button the moment you turn it on.
So turn your machine on standby (red light) then when you press the reset button HOLD IT IN. let it go to the swirly electron stage then release it.
Does the drive go out then back in after 5 seconds? If it does then great everythings fine.
The boot procedure for dvdrs is a lot different to that of normal ps2 cdrs.
You have to load the machine up with action replay 2 in (holding the reset button all the time you do this) then insert a original dvd based game with a large table of contents (i use gta3), then do procedures with the action replay (Please see the sticky at the top of this forum for the procedure as it's difficult to explain)
then FINALLY let go of your reset button. Replace the original dvd with the dvdr, then boot .
It's a long procedure and a royal pain in the butt, plus the neo2.2 will take your laser down within time (See my version 4!)
Hope this helps, but do do check out the boot procedure bg posted.
here is the link
http://fileforums.com/showthread.php?threadid=38232