Relationship Blues :(
 

Ok lets get this straight,

I've met a girl who's perfect.

Wakes you up with a coffee every morning, doesn't mind gaming and will happily sit there playing my games (Badly but I dnt mind! hehe)

But i'm not attracted to her :( ie there's no spark!

What the hell can I do? Anyone else had this problem?

uhh
paperbag her?

Ok first thing, no girl is perfect. Thats one of those messed up thing your mind tells you usually when your in love.

Now, knowing that make sure you make mental notes of little quirks that make her unperfect. Those will be the things that youll usually fall in love with in the end.


Lastly, the thing to do is go out and find the most beautiful girl you can find. I mean on thats like way out of your league. Also one with an attitude problem is an added bonus. Ask her out. When she rejects you, call the girl youve been talkin about and youll find that shes a lot more appealling. :cool:



Take this advice at your own risk.


Tyler!

mine'll work if that doesnt... :)

also
personality will make her look alot better in a lil time
ull see what i mean

LOL, note taken!

You see the problem is that she doesn't have any faults! In all honesty I think the problem is very slack but I hope people don't take it the wrong way.

Basically she's a very petite girl (Runs in the family) and even though she's 22(Same age as me) she looks no older than around 14/15. She also sounds this way too.

Whenever we go out to the cinema she gets ID's, HMV, ID'd and I know it isn't her fault but I feel strangly uncomfortable about it. Her clothes have to be specially bought as even a size 8 at next is too big!

I've spent the last 2 months putting it "on hold" and thinking about how slack it seems as it isn't her fault but nomatter where we go, or whatever we do there are always dirty looks coming my way. :(

It's not as if i'm being pathetic about her looks (trust me i've had some dogs in my time!) but I feel like I can't enjoy the relationship because of people's snide comments and looks.

dude
now thats retarded
f*ck what everyone thinks
if u love her
then thats all that matters man
come on
man up

Mate,

Trust me if you knew the situation you wouldn't be saying that. I have no problem with her (and you can't love some1 you've only been seeing a few months!)

The problem I have is the comments and looks other people give. It's easy to say **** what everyone else thinks. But when it's 24/7 it simply isn't that easy mate!

I was even pulled up in a restaurant because the waiter thought I was giving drinks to a underage kid.

It's not funny :( and it isn't as simple as saying forget what other people think

Hahahaha, dude, I know EXACTLY what you mean. Recently at the Uni I was at, there was this very little girl, yet she was older then me. Great Personality and everything, told her some secrets and ****, thought, to myself "You know what, this feels right, lets ask her how she feels" ;)

I also hanged around with very immature guys, constant jibes and ****, me being 6 foot and her being 3 foot or something. In the end I just left it, I preffered the respect of my mates over 'love'. To this day I regret it. Ended Uni on a real downer. Ending up being a proper prick towards her.

Heck, I think it was I who came up with the best nickname for her, Jailbait. Flipping hilarious. But damn, what a missed opportunity. That little midget could have been the 'one' :(

BountyWarrior you've hit the nail on the head. Thats exactly the way I feel.

I've actually ****ed a number of friends off because of them being immature about it yet here's the low down.

I've spent weeks thinking this over and it's so god damn difficult.

She's perfect but I just don't have the 'lust' i've had in the past...and I think the jibes/looks about the size is the region.

yet I know i'l regret it if I let her go....... :(

In my opinion, I say it would be best to put some space between you two for a few days and see if she constantly plays on your mind. If she does, then you know what that means ;)

Obviously, if she doesnt, then it was never meant to be. Let her go. Nicely of course :)

She already plays on my mind!

I chatted up a asda checkout girl last week and ended up taking her on date this weekend. Things went well and she came in for a 'coffee'.

But then she started acting funny when she asked what my hobby's are. As soon as gaming came into it and she saw the collection she seemed a bit reserved........whilst the small one was like a kid at christmas! She's even stole my n64, Yoshi's story, Myst and a few others! How perfect is that guys?? :)

As for the asda girl she's now wanting "THE LOGO" but i'd rather be with someone who respects me for me, and doesn't disapprove of my hobbies. (ie the small 'un)

I respect the little 'un, think she's totally wicked and love being around her....but the jibes/looks spoil it and make me act defensive all the time...something I don't wanna be :(

Well, I tend to agree with the Asda Girl. GAMES ARE FOR KIDS!!!!

Anyways, about your little girl. If she is playing on your mind, I say go for it. She seems to accept you the way you are. Its flipping hard to find a girl who does that in this day and age. If things dont work, all you lose is a cup of coffee. Tell her how you feel you chicken. If your mates cannot accept that, then **** them. If they were real mates then they should be happy for you. Its not their comments that will bother you the most though. I always find its complete strangers comments which hurt more. But **** them too. They dont know you or the little girl.

Cheers m8 :)

Much appreciated advice

Only offered it because you came from the Midlands :)

this is kinda like a playback for me ok ill tell u guys the whole story,

Until recently i was going out with this girl, she loved all my music she didnt mind me playing games she played some herself same as u mate, well thing is that i felt the same way cos altho shes 19 she looks 13, and she got ided everywere and that rlly bothered me as i look 25 so i also got rlly bad looks aniways i went through the same and ended up braking up, and altho i felt sorry, well heres the thing, if now u feel like this, how u think ull feel in a year? ud be dragging her around as theres no spark, its up to u mate but think about it.

hehe
awww
is this im-dating-a-big-girl-who-looks-like-a-lil-girl convention?

Well jay for someone who isnt attracted to this girl you sure seem hooked, lol. You cant go through life pleasing everybody but yourself. If you like this girl then why care what others think. She sounds fun and willing to accept you as as is so you should do the same. So what if she looks younger than she really is, most of us older people would consider that a compliment. Hell, they never ID me anymore :( Also, while its nice to have friends they dont always know whats best for us. Most people in or fresh out of high school live in a fantasy world anyway thinking looks and popularity rule when really, they dont have a clue about life. Its really up to you but there's no way i would let something this small cloud my thinking or judgement.Damn it man, i sound like a parent.

LOL, tell us AX how many paper bags have you used??lol

Dude, looks shouldn't matter and neither should others opinions. If you are happy screw what others think. And it is possible to fall for someone you aren't physically attracted to. I.E. I met this friend of a friend back in high school and didn't think much of her. I mean there was basically no attraction at all. We started hanging out and I fell for her and her awesome personality.

If you are happy, which is what it sounds like, and can get over the fact that other's opinions don't matter, stick with it. The personality attraction will overtake the lack of physical attraction. Good luck. :)

hehe warlock.. lets say more than needed :)
yea
big hap, u my boy
same thing i said
just live it up

:cool:

That is the best/hilairous advice on women I've ever heard!

It'll work too. ;)





Tyler!

Well **** those people dude if they take the piss then there not true friends. If you read a book called doing it by melvin burgess it rocks! it tells you how teenagers lifes are affected by relationships and ****. I reccomend u read it.

Anyway if you get on well with her but there no phisical attraction i say just stick with it as long as you get on well with each other, whats the problem in that? Id rather keep a girlfriend than dump one for that reason beacause that could hert her feelings if u dumped her for that reason and can damage someones confidence. i know im only 16 but this crops up often to me nd my mates. My mate was going out with a 14 year old and hes 16 and some people were calling him a pedo but there immature pricks thats neva had a girlfriend. I say stick with it!

Anyway Continuin on Ive also you see 15 yr olds going out with 22 year olds and think nothing of it really. Its just jumped up pricks who think wrongly. Damn id rather have a girlfriend than a boy whos a friend if u know what i mean not gay like. Altho tyler might be a bit defensive on that we know he bats for the other team we cant stop him now can we. hehe

I say talk to her about it maybe even speak 2 ur good friends or relatives im sure they have had the same experiences i know i have. A quote from a good song "girls are such a drag" but bitchin is a bigger drag.

Whatever you say Seaney. :rolleyes:





Tyler!

lol just jokin mate i know ur not uhmm Quier :p